A kid grows up in this world and he can go one of two ways. When they have the chance to grow, their parents and those around them that love them either encourage them to push out of what they are used to or keep them safe in the same place where they barely ever grow at all.
You would think that people would automatically choose to encourager those around us who are pushing ahead in there lives. Something especially important in childhood. But it is never that easy. Encouragement is only one side of the coin. Sometimes to people needed to be reminded of what their doing and need direction when they seem to be veering off.
Sometimes people need to be brought back to reality and the idea that they need to continually be introspective of what they are doing and the person they are. But you have to be careful because you could be too hard on someone. As always there is a balance but it seems to be one of the hardest to find.
I have had a lot of encouragement in my life and it has pushed me to places I never thought I would go. But I have also experienced a lot of problems and pain. And it has caused me to be careful how much I encourage others. Because of this, I tend to think more about what a person needs to fix rather then what they are doing well.
Here’s the thing: I agree and am glad I continually check myself for the things I am doing wrong so that I can be better. But I don’t think I would be the man I am today if it weren’t for all the encouragement that people have given me. And because of that, I need to be better at doing the same for others.
I need to encourage them when they are down. I need to encourage them to push out of their comfort when they don’t want to. I need to remain positive with them even when they aren’t doing exactly what they need to do. Point is, people need encouragement each and every day and it doesn’t help when all your telling people is how to stop doing things wrong.
Start telling them all the things they’re doing right. Maybe, in time, they will correct the things they are doing wrong on their own.
Well there’s encouraging someone positively which can be good or bad then there’s reality checks. The best thing you can do is give someone both. Like one of my friends encourages me to write all the time and to leave my comfort zone but at the same time I run ideas by him and he gives me a realistic idea of whether or not they’re good ideas.
So temper encouragement with reality so that you don’t build someone up too much that if they fail they’re totally crushed.
Great advice. Thanks!
I have found that a little encouragement can mean the saving of someone’s life. I have said a few things to people just because I felt that if I were in their situation I would want somebody to offer me encouragement. Then when I see them later in life they say “you know what you said to me that day changed my life”
Ya that’s exactly what has kept me going at times.
Well, let me say….Hang in there Zack!